Most people don’t go looking for a mentor or a community until something breaks. A relationship. A career. A version of themselves they’ve been holding together with everything they have. Sometimes it’s not a dramatic breaking point — sometimes it’s just a quiet, persistent feeling that something is missing. That the life they’re living doesn’t quite fit the person they actually are.
Scott built these programs because he lived that feeling. And because when he was in the middle of it, the kind of support he needed didn’t exist. A Stepping Stone and The Men’s Den are his answer to that. Two different entry points into the same journey — finding your way back to yourself, and realizing you don’t have to do it alone.
“Change begins when pretending becomes more exhausting than telling the truth.”
A Stepping Stone is one-on-one mentorship for anyone ready to take the next step. It’s not therapy. It’s not coaching in the traditional sense. It’s a guide — someone who has already walked the path and can sit with you, ask the hard questions, and help you find your footing.
A Stepping Stone is for the person who is tired of performing. Tired of numbing. Tired of looking in the mirror and not recognizing the person looking back. That transition, that troubling time, that overwhelm — it can happen at any point in life. At any age. For the person ready for a change but who has no idea what it entails.
The coaching, spiritual, and therapy realms can be overwhelming. Confusing. Scott found himself feeling like Alice in a not so Wonderland. A Stepping Stone exists to be the simpler, softer entry point — for anyone not yet ready for therapy or life coaching, or already working with a therapist or coach and needing a companion to that work. For anyone ready, maybe for the first time, to stop pretending and start finding their way back.
Understanding who you are, how you would like to behave, and who you've been performing for.
Showing up more fully in every room you walk into and every facet of your life as you. Just you.
ot someone else's goals. Yours. The ones you've been quietly carrying.
Having someone in your corner who will ask the hard questions, hold a mirror up to you, and answer with honesty and sincerity even when it isn't an easy answer.
Finding your footing and taking the next step.
To be ready to move on to the next step, acknowledging the difference between where you started and where you are. More comfortable in your own skin. Less doubt. A growing enthusiasm for what comes next. And the knowledge that change is possible. It just takes intention, hard work, and a willingness to stay open. To yourself and to the world around you.
The Men’s Den is a regular gathering of men in a safe, judgment-free space built around real conversation. No fixing, no solving, no performing strength for each other. Just men showing up honestly around a theme that matters.
Men were not built to carry things alone. But somewhere along the way most of us learned to act like we were. Scott created The Men’s Den because he knows what it feels like to have nowhere to go with the weight of it all — and because he believes a room full of honest men can change lives. Six gatherings in, men keep coming back. No advertising. No platform. Just word of mouth — and something that works.
Each gathering opens with a theme — fear, grief, identity, fatherhood, purpose, anger. The theme gives men a starting point without forcing them anywhere they’re not ready to go. From there, the conversation takes over. Scott always shares first — his own truth, his own relationship to the theme — because when the man who called the gathering goes first, it gives every other man in the room permission to do the same.
Any man who has ever felt like he was carrying something he couldn’t name. Any man who has performed strength for so long he’s forgotten what it feels like to set it down. Any man ready to walk into a room and just be honest for 90 minutes.
Scott’s vision for The Men’s Den goes beyond Murrieta. The format is built to travel — a licensed model that allows other men in other cities to bring The Den to their communities. The goal is a national network of men willing to stop pretending and start living.
